lifeinmycubicle

I witness a lot of office romances unfold in my workplace. Some people in our organization let themselves get romantically involved with married men or women. I realize that we spend long hours at work and emails, text messages, internet make cheating a lot easier. I’ll use Wendy and Bob as an example. Wendy is single, has a boyfriend, and used to be our Sales Analyst. Bob is married and Vice President of our Sales Department. She has a strong desire to move up as a Sales Manager and at the same time attracted to Bob. She’s used different ways to get to where she is now which is, our Sales Manager. Sad but true.

So, if you have a crush on a married co-worker, here are a fews tips on how not to fall for him/her. You are not only jeopardizing your job, you are also ruining your image and most importantly, someone else’s relationship with his/her partner and kids.

1. Do not use funny or joke forwarded emails and even chain letters to get noticed. I know people who use this technique. I call this “subtle cyber flirting.” They just want to see if he/she comments on the email.
2. Do not add him/her to your Instant Messenger. If he/she is already on your IM list, only talk about things that are work related. Don’t talk about your personal life. If you have problems and you need somebody to talk to, call your best friend, cousin or mother. If he/she starts any personal conversations, end it politely.
3. Do not send text messages that are not work related. If the opposite sex sends you a text message that is not work related, don’t reply.
4. In addition to what I have mentioned above, do not call or send him/her text messages after office hours and weekends. You do not need to say hello or wish him/her Happy Holidays or Happy 4th.
5. If you need to have lunch with him/her, bring another co-worker and drive separately.
6. Avoid going out for drinks after work. If you need to go, make sure you don’t drink.
7. Always remember, “Strictly business.”
8. Be considerate and respect his/her family. How would you feel if you’re married and your partner cheats on you?
9. If you need affection and attention, go date someone who is not married or attached. Remember, if you are involved with a married man/woman, you will not be his/her priority. You will not get his/her full attention.

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